As an empath it is common advice to put a bubble around ourselves to protect us from other people’s energy.
What is an Empath?
First, what is an empath? An empath is someone who can pick up on other’s emotions, feelings, energy. Somewhere I read 20% of the population are empaths. I think it really means 20% of people are “awake” empaths because truly, we are all empaths. (Don’t forget just because you read it on the internet doesn’t make it true!) That’s how humans are wired. You’ve probably had the experience where you walk into a room and you can feel the angry energy. Someone is silently seething or just had a fight before you walked in. Or you answer the phone only to hear the sadness in your friend’s voice. That’s being an empath. We’ve all experienced something like that at some point.
It makes sense that humans, as social beings, would need to pick up on other’s energy. Think about cave man times. If you and your buddy are out hunting and you notice he’s shaking with fear, good to know, right? You can tell him to go hide or go back to camp instead. Animals sense fear. If he’s riddled up with fear, he’s going to be the hunted, not the hunter. And if he’s the prey, you may be next. So good to know he’s in fear, right? Being an empath was survival in those days. It was hard wired into us. Today thankfully being an empath isn’t always necessary for survival, but it can sure help your EQ (emotional intelligence quotient) and your peace of mind.
We Are All Empaths
So not to burst anyone’s bubble that feels special by being an empath, we are all one. An “awake” empath (my definition) is someone who knows they are one and knows how to manage it. Just because you are an empath, doesn’t mean you know what to do about it. I didn’t. I know many who didn’t and don’t. It’s ok, now you know you are an empath, now you learn how to deal with it.
If you aren’t aware you’re an empath (part of being human) and then don’t know what to do about it, it can cripple you in the sense that you don’t want to leave the house or just make your days really lousy. For example, do you like to go to the mall? If the answer is no, then your empath antenna is working because you’re picking up all that chaotic energy. But you don’t know what to do with it.
When you are on your journey of awakening and your empathic abilities begin to open, you start to feel more of other people’s energy. It’s what you do with it that matters.
Put a Bubble Around Yourself
The common advice is to put yourself in a bubble so you don’t feel and take on everyone else’s energy. The bigger picture is to first recognize what you are feeling – agitated? Frustrated? Angry? Sad?
Then check in & see if it’s yours.
Ask yourself: Is it mine?
Yes or no?
If no, then it does not matter whose it is. It doesn’t. Better not to try to figure it out. It’s tempting to our ego to try to prove what a great psychic or intuitive we are because we picked up the lady in red over there is really irritated about something but trying hard not to show it. It doesn’t matter, no offense. It’s just clutter. We don’t need to know. Really, we don’t need to know who is thinking or feeling what. What we do need to know is that it’s not ours.
Have Others Validate For You
If you are learning to hone your intuition, then a better “game” to play would be to tune into your friends or family and then have them validate what you picked up on. You can’t validate with strangers and at the end of the day, like I said, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you know it’s not your energy.
Some may say the exception is if you “need’ to tune into someone to assist them in some way. (IMO that’s a personal choice whether you feel you need to assist a stranger because you feel something about them.) Give them a message? Send healing energy for their greatest good? Just so you know, if you send them healing energy and their soul doesn’t want to accept it, they won’t. So you are never in error. Whatever you do, follow the golden rule and do it in love.
If we go to the mall or Disney World or even our office and let other people’s energy bother us, then we are not using our own energy wisely. Why do we want to be agitated by other people’s chaotic energy? It doesn’t feel good.
Most of us would agree, no, we wouldn’t want to get agitated by other people’s energy. But we do if we don’t know we are. That’s where the awareness level comes in.
Don’t React to Other People’s Energy
When we are being called to vibrate higher, when we are waking up, it’s best not to be irresponsible with our energy. Meaning, try not to react all the time to other’s energy. Healthier for us not to walk into the mall and then let our mood slip to instant irritation.
Notice it. “Huh, why am I all of the sudden irritated? Why did my mood change?”
Or maybe you notice you just snapped at your kid for nothing. Why? Oh, because you felt some energy from someone else and didn’t know it so you reacted to it unconsciously.
Now that you checked in and know it’s not your energy you just reacted to, then choose not to let it influence you. Say to yourself, “I choose not to feel everyone else’s energy and thoughts. I am in the present and I choose only to experience my energy and thoughts. How do I want that to be?”
Going back to the beginning of this article, many people will recommend you put a bubble around yourself to protect yourself from experiencing everyone else’s energy. I say look at that as training wheels. Meaning, when you first learn and accept that you are an empath, that can be overwhelming in and of itself. Having a strategy to help you out with it is quite ok. IMO there’s nothing wrong with imagining you have a bubble of protection around yourself or walls of steel or whatever you choose. Going to the mall? Zip yourself up first. Contain your energy. Protect it.
Is It Mine or Theirs?
Then when you feel more comfortable identifying other people’s energy and using discernment to recognize it’s not yours, then you can graduate to leaving the bubble at home.
Part of waking up and becoming more conscious is always managing our own energy no matter what is going on around us. I didn’t say that was easy, but that is the goal. Like any goal, take it in steps. So if putting a bubble around you is your first step, then feel free to do it. If you have to do it for twenty years, that’s ok too. No one is judging you for your coping mechanisms. Just know the ultimate goal is to no longer need the bubble.
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