When we’re struggling with something or are in a situation we’re unsure about, we can often come up with twenty reasons why we can’t do it or can’t have it. It’s human nature to think the worst.
Oftentimes we don’t fill in the blank with why we can’t do it, we’ve just convinced ourselves we can’t, no questions asked. Sometimes we get out the big guns and fill in the blanks with all the reasons it didn’t work out before.
“I can’t possibly be good at this job….. because I got fired from the last one.” or “I can’t run my own business….. because I’ve never done it before.” Or “I can’t have a good relationship …..because I mess them all up.” All I’m hearing is: I can’t, I can’t, I can’t.
What if You Can?
Why can’t you? For every reason why you can’t, there’s a reason why you can. Just because you got fired the last time, why does it have to mean you will again? Just because your last relationship didn’t turn out so well, why does it mean it won’t this time? You’re filling in those blanks with old answers. You’re looking for past evidence to predict a future. If you don’t want to repeat it, don’t look to the past. By focusing on why something can’t happen, you’re limiting all the wonderful things the universe can bring you instead.
If you don’t want to get fired again or have another relationship fall apart, why not look at your chances of success in a more positive light? Wouldn’t it feel better to think you can keep your job or the relationship?
Even if you have a real concern, why does it have to repeat itself? We’ve been trained to believe because we failed in the past we’ll fail again. That isn’t true or doesn’t have to be true unless you make it be true.
Focus on What You Want, Not What You Don’t Want
Since manifesting starts with our thoughts, why not focus on the outcome you want vs what you don’t want? We know if we focus on what we don’t want, we’ll get more of that. So why not focus on what we want so we can get that?
Most of us tend to be negative so I know this isn’t as easy as it sounds. It takes practice. Trust me, I know. I came from a family of champion negative thinkers. But I found a way out and it’s my goal to share that with you.
Since life is full of infinite possibilities, instead of focusing on all the reasons why you can’t do something or get the outcome you want, why not find one that can come true? There’s always a reason something can come true. Always.
Ask Yourself, “Why Can’t I?”
Of course, you can!
I realize that question is formulated in the negative, but when we’re down in the dumps or full of doubt, we focus on the negative. Therefore is seems easier to handle, “Why can’t I?” vs “Why can I?” If you prefer the positive version, by all means, use it.
The only thing stopping you from getting what you desire is you. It’s all about our head games.
There are times you might need more knowledge or skills for something to work out. If that’s the case, get it. If you feel you aren’t good at relationships even though you’re a good person, buy some books, watch youtube videos, hire a relationship coach, whatever you have to do to get better at it. Same with the job, if there’s a part of your job you’re not so good at, get training. Google is free.
The purpose of this question isn’t to answer it directly. If you try to answer it you can get stuck in your head again and have a counter argument for every reason you can get what you want. That’s not the point.
Shift Your Consciousness with New Possibilities
The point is to shift your consciousness by asking a question that opens the space for something different, to pull in a different possibility. A possibility that coincides with what you want.
Don’t fixate on the reasons you can’t, open a door of possibility that you can. Even if you can only open that door an inch, open it.
Once you truly believe you can get whatever it is you want and stop coming up with reasons why you can’t, then you’re well on your way to getting it. That’s how manifesting works.
Next time you’re struggling with a situation, instead of focusing on all the reasons why you can’t do it, ask yourself, “Why Can’t I?” You’ll find that liberating.