Then it won’t happen. Or it’s not true.
Beliefs can be very rigid, very convincing. So much so that if someone’s belief is shattered, they can’t accept it. Particularly when the belief hits very close to home – about us.
The other day I did a reading for a gentleman. His mother has diabetes but refuses to believe it. As a result, she ignores what she needs to do to stay healthy. Thankfully she doesn’t need to take insulin…yet…but if she doesn’t control her lifestyle, that’s where she’s headed. Her denial of reality could be her downfall.
It’s one thing to refuse to believe something in order to counteract it, it’s another thing to be in denial. Some things can’t be reversed with our thinking alone. At least not yet. While I believe that is possible, not many people are capable of that at this time.
Denial…not the River in Egypt!
Not believing something that’s obviously true is denial. It’s another version of sticking our heads in the sand, hoping the problem will go away. It’s a form of, “It’s too big, too scary, but if I ignore it, it will go away.” It usually doesn’t happen that way.
One of my sisters, sadly, has dementia. Before she got it, she was a person who engaged in heavy denial. In fact, it was her belief that she needed no meds is what ultimately caused her to have a stroke, which lead to dementia.
Dementia is a very cruel disease in that those who suffer from it generally do not realize that they have it. They aren’t capable of seeing the truth so there’s no sense trying to convince them. My sister still denies that she has it because she literally isn’t capable of seeing it.
But most of us are. We just don’t want to.
Some truths are a very bitter pill to swallow. So bitter, so big, that we will stay in denial for as long as we can. Staying in denial, though, is often what leads to destruction or misfortune. No one wants to confront bad news, but sometimes we have to in order to deal with it.
Some things won’t go away no matter how much we wish them away. No matter how much we don’t want to believe it. It’s hard to face reality sometimes but face it we must if we want to stay healthy or have more friends or make more money.
It’s Insanity!
If you never seem to make the money you desire then someone points out why you don’t, it makes sense that you would follow their suggestions, right? But if their observations hit too close to home, you “do a runner” as the Brits would say. You run from constructive feedback. Maybe you argue back with them to refute them or maybe you can’t see it, so you ignore what they say and continue doing what you’ve been doing. Although to keep doing what we’ve been doing, getting the same results is the definition of insanity!
A friend of mine has a chronic health issue. She keeps going to the same specialists getting the same lack of results. She doesn’t seem to be getting appreciably better. That’s when I reminded her that’s technically the definition of insanity!
Get a new doctor, try a new approach. Do something to get some relief! Stop spending all this money, stop hoping and wishing for different results. It’s been years and nothing has changed much. She is a logical person, but she can’t see the lack of logic in her actions.
She doesn’t want to believe that these specialists aren’t really helping her. Partly because she clings to the belief that because she doesn’t live in a major city there aren’t many good doctors around. So, widen your circle! But she’s stubborn that way. Her beliefs aren’t helping her but she refuses to see it. Denial.
Beliefs Don’t Make it True
Just because we believe something doesn’t make it true.
Even the principles of manifesting state that you can believe something all you want, but ultimately you have to take action to make it come true. But some things we can’t make come true. We can’t make a doctor heal us if they’re not capable or knowledgeable enough. We can’t reverse diabetes by just believing we don’t have it. Again, I’ll add my qualifier. Some people may be capable of that, but most of us are not.
It’s not easy to have your beliefs shattered, I get it. No one wants to face an ugly truth. Not facing it though can be disastrous or lead to more disappointment.
If you believe that you’re a nice person but feedback says you’re rude, are you going to keep believing you’re nice when you’re really not? Or are you going to make some changes so that you have more friends?
Making changes forces you to confront your belief that maybe you’re not as nice as you think you are. No one wants to believe that. Sometimes reality is harsh. If your end goal is to have more friends, then don’t beat yourself up for your past behavior. Be glad you got the feedback, now change it. Believe that you can be nice and show it.
No One Wants to Change
Change is at the root of the issue. Most people don’t want to change. Why? Because it’s hard. Because it requires staring the ugly truth in the face. Because it requires doing something different. Doing the same thing is comfortable, but it doesn’t mean it’s good for us.
For the diabetic, loading up on sweets isn’t good. Try alternatives instead. Eat fruit or use sugar substitutes to satisfy those cravings. It’s a change but it’s not so huge that sweet foods are eliminated altogether. It’s a compromise. A compromise for improved health. That’s worth it!
For the person who can’t make money, implement a few suggestions, not all of them at once. Take it slowly. Track results. If it’s obvious the suggestions are working, then keep doing it. While it’s change, the end result ends in something positive – more money! Let that be motivation, not the resistance to change.
For the person who wants more friends, try being nicer. Try smiling more. A little shift in behavior and attitude will produce the desired results. It’s good change.
Make the change in baby steps to avoid resistance or back-sliding. Too much change at once can be uncomfortable and result in halting the behavior.
While beliefs can be comfortable like an old worn-out t-shirt, it doesn’t mean they’re helping us. Examine what you believe when you’re stuck in a rut or caught in a spiral. If the beliefs are no longer serving you because the results aren’t positive, maybe it’s time for a change.
As the old commercial said, “Try it, you’ll like it!”
“Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.” ~ Aldous Huxley
Are your beliefs serving you? Do you have doubts about them? Are you ready to make a change?
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