Recently a friend of mine wanted to participate in an event but was rejected. Immediately I told her they did you a favor. Sometimes getting rejected is a good thing. My friend standing next to me summed it up well when she said, “Rejection is protection.” How right that saying is!
When we’re rejected – whether it be from a man, a job, an application of some sort etc. – we feel let down. We feel like it’s our fault. We weren’t good enough. What’s wrong with us? Our mind goes into over drive trying to figure it out and ask unanswerable questions. Bottom line is we may never know the answer. And a bigger bottom line is that we may have been spared!
Perhaps that guy (or gal) was a major jerk and would’ve left only destruction in his wake. Maybe that job would’ve been an utter disaster. The Universe could’ve been doing you a huge solid. Initially we don’t see it that way because we’re distressed. The passage of time and the gift of hindsight is when we can see the giant blessing that we were given.
We Often Don’t See it at the Time
I’ve told this story before and I’ll tell it again. When I was in the professional sales-world I had friends who were pharmaceutical reps. I envied their seemingly cushy jobs and their big expense accounts to wine and dine the docs. Five-star dinners, ski vacations, you name it. From my perspective all they had to do was show up once in a while with their handy wheely bag (that was before wheely bags were so commonplace), dole out samples, collect a hefty paycheck and take the staff to lunch. Somewhere really nice, of course. It sure seemed like a dream job!
A few times I was able to score an interview with a pharmaceutical company. For some reason the offer always alluded me. Of course, I felt dejected. And rejected. Why could my friends score such a posh job when I couldn’t? And in some cases, I had a more applicable degree (pre-med). It made no sense to me. To say the least, I was bummed.
Don’t get me wrong. My job wasn’t bad at all. I was in professional sales in the scientific community with good pay and perks. I had to put in a lot of hours, though. I paid my dues for sure. We always want what we don’t have, don’t we? And what seems easier. Who knows if their job really was easier. It looked easier to me. And they generally got paid more than I did, for what seemed like less work.
Many years later when I was more plugged in to my higher self, I had a huge light bulb moment. I would’ve hated that job! I am not a fan of prescription meds. My first go-to is always the natural world. If I can’t solve it there, then I’ll consider medication. But that’s last resort.
At the time I wasn’t as opposed to prescription meds although I didn’t want to take any and wasn’t on any. All I saw was a seemingly easier job for more money. Who wouldn’t want that? I guess you could say since I seemed to be only money motivated the Universe was punishing me for that mindset. If that’s the case, though, what about all of the other people who take jobs solely for that reason? Nah, I don’t buy that answer.
Instead, rejection was protection. The Universe was protecting me from a career that I would’ve grown to hate, especially if I had inside information on this industry. I’m not the type of sales person who can sell something that I don’t believe in. If the bloom had fallen off the rose, aka I was no longer enthralled with the pharmaceutical industry, then I would’ve wanted out. I wouldn’t have been able to perform my job satisfactorily nor look myself in the mirror.
Compromising Your Values is Never a Good Thing
Or perhaps the opposite is true. Maybe I would’ve turned into something I didn’t believe in – a supporter of meds – just to collect a hefty paycheck. Either way, looking back I feel the Universe was protecting me from a job that I would’ve grown to hate or from compromising my values. Now I can say, thank you, Universe! Not so much at the time, though.
I’m sure you’ve had some similar experience too. Someone or something rejected you. It crushed you. Maybe it made you defiant or you wanted to get even. None of which are a positive reaction. Once you dry your eyes or calm down, look at it this way: you were saved! Saved from some unknown disaster of sorts. Sure, it didn’t feel like it at the time but if you look back you might be able to see it.
The Universe, our Higher Self, our angels and guides, whatever the case may be, always has our back. We may not realize it, but they do. That’s not to say that we don’t fall into traps or take bad advice or accept a crappy job offer. That’s on us. We’re the ones in the driver’s seat making the ultimate decisions on our life.
It’s when we stand back and look at the bigger picture or hear the stories from others who got what we thought we wanted, or most importantly, listen to our intuition, do we realize the favor the Universe did for us. That’s when gratitude vs desolation can kick in. Instead of pining over “what could’ve been” now we see that “opportunity” with a completely different perspective. It wasn’t for us. We may have thought so at the time. It looked good on paper. But the reality is, no, we were spared.
Rejection, then, truly is protection. Take the win.
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