A lot of my clients say they feel they don’t deserve something. Do you catch yourself saying that too?
Maybe you got a promotion and don’t feel you deserve it? You own your own business and can’t see yourself making fill in the blank number because you don’t deserve it? Or you’re treated poorly in a relationship because you don’t feel you deserve to be treated any better? Or someone gave you something nice and you don’t feel you deserve it?
Many of us, especially women, suffer from the “I don’t deserve it” syndrome. It’s just not true. You deserve everything – and more.
You Already Deserve It!
Deserving is about worthiness. We are all created intrinsically worthy. We don’t have to try to be. We just are. Knowing that, you deserve the promotion, the raise, the gift, to be treated better. For more information on that, read my blog post here.
The Universe knows that you deserve things because you are inherently worthy. The bigger question is do you choose to have what you desire?
The universe isn’t set up on deserving; it’s set up on choice. We live in a binary world where everything is a choice. You’re either up or down, happy or sad, off or on. Therefore, we must pick a state. We must make a choice. It’s one or the other.
There are 12 Universal Laws that govern the physical, emotional, environmental and spiritual elements of the universe. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation of Energy states that every person has the power within them to change the conditions of their lives using their power of choice.
That’s powerful. Change your life by the choices you make. Know that you deserve any and all just for being you.
Choose It!
Choice is the on/off switch. Phones are either on or off. Ovens are either on or off. Showers are either on or off. To use any appliance or gadget it has to be turned on first. To stop using it, turn it off.
The same thing is true for choosing something. If you feel hungry, what do you do? You decide it’s time to eat so you get up and go to the kitchen. You made a choice. You’re tired so what do you do? Go to bed. Most of our choices are so seamless that we don’t realize we make them. Like getting up to eat or going to bed.
It’s easy to decide when your body is driving the train. You’re hungry, you eat. You’re tired, you sleep.
But what about the bigger things like I want a raise or a new job or a new relationship? Those are more complicated. Why? Because they involve our mindset. Yes, there’s that tricky little word again! We have to keep our thoughts in check. And one of those sneaky little thoughts is, “I don’t deserve it.”
YES, YOU DO!
Please remove that phrase from your vocabulary. Getting over worthiness is another matter, so please re-visit my blog post on that. It’s not about feeling worthy or deserving, it’s about choosing. You already deserve it, so will you choose to get it?
Do you choose to get that new job? Wanting it and choosing it are two different things. Sometimes we think we want something, only to find out we really don’t. If we don’t, then we’re probably not choosing it. Are you? Do your actions support your thoughts? Meaning, are you looking for a new job or are you just giving it lip service? Are you wishing for a new job or are you doing something about it?
Choose it.
Deal with the “but I don’t deserve it” thoughts separately. You do deserve it. Right now, choose it. “I choose to get a new job.” That’s signaling to the Universe that it’s go-time. “She said yes!” “She hit the ‘on’ switch!” It’s showing the Universe that you really mean it. You picked one thing over another. That’s choosing. That’s powerful. Imagine a world with no choice. It would not feel good.
Wanting vs Choosing
“Choose” is a much more powerful word than “want.” Want doesn’t imply power. Kids want new toys, but they have no way to buy them. They need their parents for that. We adults want a lot of things. We want a million dollars, but it doesn’t mean we’ll get it. Wanting implies there’s a lack, that’s why we want it. There’s a hole to fill.
Choosing to have a million dollars implies commitment to set an action plan in place to get it. Choosing to get a new toy as a child could involve doing extra chores to earn it. In either case you deserve it, but do you want it or do you choose it? Are you saying you want it or are you doing something about it?
Here’s what Google says about those two words: “Wanting refers to a desire or wish for something, while choosing involves making a decision and taking action towards that desire. The key difference is that choosing requires commitment and responsibility to pursue what you truly want.”
Well said, Google. “Choose” is the ability to select then act on it whereas “want” is wishing without necessarily doing anything about it. It’s more loosey-goosey. It’s just putting your wishes out there without doing anything about it. Even something as simple as getting a new pair of shoes – first you want them, then you go to the store to buy them. You made the choice to get up off the couch and go get them. Did you catch that? You made the choice. It’s another seamless action that we don’t think about, we just do it. You turned your want, your desire, into a choice which led to an action. You bought the shoes that you wanted after you decided, a choice, to go get them.
Make The Choice
The bigger, harder things in life require commitment. So, choose to get them. If your desire is truly there, then set about getting it. It’s not whether you deserve it or not, because you do. No matter what it is, you deserve it just by being a living, breathing, human being. There is no deserving. You already are. So, choose it.
Re-structure your thoughts from “I want a new job” to “I choose a new job.” Doesn’t that feel more powerful? It does to me.
Choice is one thing that thankfully we have in this world. Even if your freedoms are limited, your thoughts are not. So, choose better thoughts. Choose more powerful thoughts. “I choose…” fill in the blank with your object of desire! You already deserve it, so now choose it. It’s within your grasp if you really want it. Go for it!
Are you unsure if you deserve something? Are you questioning whether you really want something? What do you do about it? Ask your intuition! It will guide you. It won’t steer you wrong!
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