Right or Happy?

Some people are so into being right that if you gave them a needlepoint pillow saying, “I’d rather be happy than right,” they’d think it was backwards. To them it should read, “I’d rather be right than happy” because happiness isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Their attitude is who wants to be happy when you can be right? Or they assume you can be both. Not always.

Dealing with these know-it-alls can be super frustrating. You can’t win an argument with them, so don’t even try. If you correct them, brace yourself for snark. Not all of them will react that way, but many will. They like to correct you, not vice versa.

Why do People Have to be Right?

There are many reasons, but here are a few.

Competitive – “What you just said is wrong. No, it’s this!” They have to correct you and prove that you are wrong, they are right. In their mind it shows their superiority. They are going to one-up you no matter what. They have to win at all costs.

Big Ego – “It’s my way or the highway” attitude. You have to do it their way because once again, they are right, you are wrong. They know better, you can’t possibly.

Insecure – being right is all they have going for them so they have to point it out when someone is wrong. For this kind of person, a friend of mine would say, “Just bless their little heart!” They know no better.

Control – if they control the narrative, then they feel safe. Control is always about safety and protection from fear.

Where Does it Come From?

Having a critical parent increases the possibility of picking up the habit of correcting people or proving them wrong. If someone was criticized and corrected often, chances are they will do the same to others because that’s all they know. No one likes to be corrected so that behavior won’t win a popularity contest. If you find that you do that, now is the time to pay attention and let that behavior go. If you know someone who does it, how do you deal with it?

Like most behaviors, many people don’t realize what they are doing. In that case if you tell them they may deny it or get angry. If they are open to constructive feedback, then by all means, respectfully educate them. No one wants to go through life alienating people. Their “know-it-all” behavior could very well be sabotaging them, unbeknownst to them. You could be doing them a huge favor by telling them!

If you are dealing with a clueless person, who doesn’t get how their behavior affects others, then educating them may not do much good. Because, don’t forget, they are always right, so how can you possibly be right about them? That attitude leaves two options: ignore them or cut off contact. It all depends on how much it bothers you. If you can let it slide, great. If not, it may be time to cut ties.

To ignore them means don’t let them get to you. I don’t advocate feeling sorry for someone because that’s not a high vibrational feeling. Instead of feeling sorry for them or mad at them, just realize that’s who they are, at least for now, and they either don’t realize they are that way or don’t care. Either way, you can’t change them, so don’t try. It will continue to frustrate you if you do.

It’s like being married for a long time. What’s the secret? Letting a lot of stuff go. Sure, my  husband does some things that irritate me but instead of getting all worked up about it, I know that’s who he is, it’s really not a big deal, and let it go. No one is perfect and that includes me!

Clean it Up Now

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again because it still applies. The world is a bit crazy right now! Word on the street is it WILL change. For the better. We’re just not there yet. In the meantime, many of us are upgrading, our ascension symptoms are ramping up. Our faults, along with other people’s, are being thrown in our faces.

Why? Because it’s time to clean up behaviors that no longer serve us. We can’t control what other people choose to clean up, only ourselves. Keep in mind that their behavior may be a mirror to your own. You might be seeing something in someone else that applies to you too. In that case, it’s a good thing that you were shown. Now you have an opportunity to clear it out.

My advice is do your best to ignore other people’s dysfunctional behaviors and concentrate on your own. Does it mean you won’t ascend if you don’t clean them all up? I doubt we can clean up everything so do your best.

Don’t Strive for Perfect

It’s really hard to clear it all out. We won’t be perfect by the time ascension happens. If you try to be, you’ll probably set yourself up for failure. What it will look like I have no idea. I’ve heard so many different versions that it’s all so confusing. All I know is keep on letting go, doing your release work, upping your awareness level. That’s the best that we’ve got right now. Stay in your lane, don’t worry the others. That’s up to them. 

If they’d rather be right than happy, they are missing out. If you step back and look at it, it’s rather sad, really. Being right is great, having the receipts to prove your point helps your cause. But at what cost? If being right alienates people then it’s not worth it.

My happiness is central to my life. If someone interrupts it, then it’s up to me to get it back. They can only influence me if I allow it. And that includes the know-it-alls of the world. They can keep being right, I’ll be happy instead. Problem solved! Let them think they won when really, you did. You won your peace of mind! That’s worth more than anything to me.

P.S. Being right blocks your intuition, your connection to your Higher Self and the Divine. Read more here to understand that huge repercussion of being right.

If you’re not sure if being right is an issue for you, then ask yourself. Ask your intuition.

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