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Grace vs Pressure

Often when we want to get something done, we start putting pressure on ourselves. We don’t cut ourselves any slack because we want to get the thing done. Whether the thing is cooking dinner or building a business, it’s all the same. We try to motivate ourselves with pressure. We think the more pressure we …

Transition

A lot of my clients come to me in transition of some sort. Between jobs, between relationships, starting something new or ending something old. Transition can feel scarry. It can feel uncomfortable because it involves uncertainty. Humans love certainty. When we don’t have it, we often feel out of sorts. And that’s when worry kicks …

Criticism

We all get criticized. And it doesn’t feel very good. One thing to keep in mind is something I learned years ago: consider the source. Criticism is in the mind of the beholder. WHO is criticizing you and why? Sometimes criticism is valid. In that case I prefer to view it as feedback. Constructive feedback, …

Getting Motivated When You’re Not

Getting motivated when you’re not, let’s face it, is hard. Sometimes it is a physical issue like an illness, depression, condition etc. keeping you from doing what you want to do. Those need to be addressed first before any mental motivation issues. What about people who do not have physical a condition? It could be …

Emotional Whiplash

Ever had someone be mean to you one minute then the next they’re being nice like thanking or complimenting you for something? It’s so quick that it makes your head spin! In fact, there’s a name for it. It’s called emotional whiplash. It’s Called Whiplash for a Reason Emotional whiplash is a psychological phenomenon when …

It’s Good From Afar…

…but far from good. Wow. That can apply to just about anything. Things Aren’t Always What They Seem… There are probably about twenty other scenarios that could be compared. It all boils down to “things aren’t always what they seem.” Which leads me to say: it’s not useful to compare to situations or people when …

Habit Stacking

Ever want to incorporate something new into your routine? Like exercise or a new supplement to take or meditation? Probably millions of time management experts already know this, but I stumbled upon it so I’ll share it with you. Efficiency Works The best way to add a new routine is to tack into onto something …

Indirect Criticism

Have you ever dealt with someone who you aren’t sure how to take them? As in you walk away not sure where you stand with them because of how they say what they say to you? I have a client who told me about her experience.  Then I recognized it in someone I used to …

Hair and Identity

The hair on our head is something we all get attached to. It’s a symbol of vitality, youth and beauty. When we start to lose it as we age our confidence can go with it. But there’s something else that I want to say about our hair that’s not as obvious. Ever notice a woman …

Score Keeping

“I cooked dinner last night, and you can’t even take out the trash?” Ever heard that one? Or how about “I’m always the one who has to step up.” Or “I do all the work around here!” Do any of those sound familiar? There are a million more variations. It’s called score keeping. Not like …